How many times do you think about doing something that feels like a stretch and you ask yourself, "Can I do this'? Those four little words can really set the stage for the end result. If you ask yourself "Can I do this" you are introducing and validating your own self-doubt. When that enters, the goal seems that much further away and you are ultimately sabotaging your results.
Rather than asking "Can I do this", ask instead, "How can I do this". The mere act of rephrasing that shifts the paradigm from one of self-doubt to one of embracing the possibilities. When you ask, "Can I do this" you are really prompting your mind to make an immediate assessment and answer yes or no. The sad realization is that we often gravitate to the "no" response.. The key is to start a conversation with your mind. When your brain is confronted with the "how" it will immediately shift into offering possibilities and finding solutions. Our brain is like a computer and it will naturally seek out the solution when presented the problem. But we have to take that first step to in essence, program our brain to respond to our request.
"How can I do this" implies the solution is out there it's just a matter of us putting together the right pieces to make it happen. It entails being open and aware of the opportunities that already exist around us and a willingness to step into them. The solution always exists when you don't shut down the process. Make sure your mindset is such that you are ready to receive it.
The next time you are confronted with a situation that requires you to step outside your comfort zone or stretches you to that next level, ask yourself "how can I do this"? Allow yourself to open up to the process and you will find the solution will present itself.
Action Step:
Catch yourself the next time you say, "Can I do this". Stop and immediately rephrase that to "How can I do this" and keep reinforcing that until you sense you've let go of any self doubt and allowed yourself to embrace the possibilities. Train your mind to immediately let go of the "Can I" response. Write out your thoughts. Let any self-doubt that exists come out and release it. Open up the way for the solution to show up. The solution always exists, you just need to create an environment that allows it to manifest.
Karen Dunlap is an interior designer, business owner and creator of the Design For Your Success NOW System™, a unique training and coaching program specifically created for design professionals. Using specific strategies and systems, Karen coaches design professionals on how to simplify their business, attract ideal clients and get back to their original passion, designing and decorating.
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Rather than asking "Can I do this", ask instead, "How can I do this". The mere act of rephrasing that shifts the paradigm from one of self-doubt to one of embracing the possibilities. When you ask, "Can I do this" you are really prompting your mind to make an immediate assessment and answer yes or no. The sad realization is that we often gravitate to the "no" response.. The key is to start a conversation with your mind. When your brain is confronted with the "how" it will immediately shift into offering possibilities and finding solutions. Our brain is like a computer and it will naturally seek out the solution when presented the problem. But we have to take that first step to in essence, program our brain to respond to our request.
"How can I do this" implies the solution is out there it's just a matter of us putting together the right pieces to make it happen. It entails being open and aware of the opportunities that already exist around us and a willingness to step into them. The solution always exists when you don't shut down the process. Make sure your mindset is such that you are ready to receive it.
The next time you are confronted with a situation that requires you to step outside your comfort zone or stretches you to that next level, ask yourself "how can I do this"? Allow yourself to open up to the process and you will find the solution will present itself.
Action Step:
Catch yourself the next time you say, "Can I do this". Stop and immediately rephrase that to "How can I do this" and keep reinforcing that until you sense you've let go of any self doubt and allowed yourself to embrace the possibilities. Train your mind to immediately let go of the "Can I" response. Write out your thoughts. Let any self-doubt that exists come out and release it. Open up the way for the solution to show up. The solution always exists, you just need to create an environment that allows it to manifest.
Karen Dunlap is an interior designer, business owner and creator of the Design For Your Success NOW System™, a unique training and coaching program specifically created for design professionals. Using specific strategies and systems, Karen coaches design professionals on how to simplify their business, attract ideal clients and get back to their original passion, designing and decorating.
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